Despite all the potential dangers and cultural differences, the vast majority of Russian-American marriages are successful.

Exact statistics are difficult to collect for various reasons. First, most census reports do not keep statistics using the categories of Russian women and American men.

Second, Russian-American marriages are a recent phenomenon for the most part. Most of them have only taken place since the breakup of the Soviet Union.

The number of marriages was small at first and has gained momentum as time has gone on.

Consequently, most Russian-American marriages are a relatively new phenomenon. It is difficult to predict how these marriages will stand the test of time.

However, INS statistics have estimated that approximately eighty percent of Russian-American marriages are intact after two years. This is based on the number of green card and naturalization applications they receive.

Marriage agencies, which specialize in matching American men and Russian women, estimate that 80 to 95 percent of marriages are successful, depending on which agency reports.

I would go so far as to say that twenty percent of Russian-American marriages that fail are basically the fault of American men.

Either American men weren’t very judicious in their choice of mate, or the men weren’t very good marriage partners.

They married women thirty years younger than themselves. They never went beyond beauty to find out what their partner was really like before marrying them. They used their money, status, assets or position as bait to attract a mate.

They could not meet the libido or other energy demands of their younger wife. They had roommates or other people living with them that disrupted the family life situation.

They continued their chauvinistic, alcoholic, womanizing, or violent behavior that ruined their previous marriages.

Maybe they didn’t do enough to help their fiancée through the harsh period of culture shock when they first came to America. Perhaps they weren’t patient enough to help their fiancée learn all the little details of American life that we take for granted.

Perhaps they thought they could exercise ‘control’ over their foreign wife because she ‘didn’t know any better’. Perhaps they thought they had a sex toy that would satisfy her demands without hesitation.

The reason I say these things is that most Russian women find it extremely important to get married and stay married. The status of married women in Russia is much higher than that of single women,

Russian women will go the extra mile to make their marriage work.

They have a commitment to marriage that Western women don’t have. They will often stay in a marriage, even if they feel it is less than ideal, to the benefit of the marriage.

This requires an emotional and spiritual maturity that many people do not have.

Increasingly in Western society over the last thirty years, spouses have put their own ego needs ahead of the needs of their family and children.

This is the consequence of the generation of the ‘I’. Families, and especially children, were sacrificed on the altar of self-gratification. The ego demands of immature spouses put their own satisfaction before the well-being of their family and children.

This is one of the reasons why the percentage of nuclear families in the United States has fallen from eighty percent of the population to twenty percent in the last thirty years.

The missing ingredient is commitment. Russian women seek marriage with Western men because many Russian men are no longer interested in committing to family life. They are Peter Pans afraid of growing up.

American men are turning to Russian women because they believe they embody traditional values ​​that are missing in American women. The number one missing traditional value is

COMMITMENT

Many American men also have problems with commitment. They think that because they marry a foreign woman they won’t have to work very hard to make their marriage work. You are wrong.

Due to all the cultural differences, a marriage between an American man and a Russian woman requires even more work.

But if both spouses are committed to making the marriage work, then those things can be worked out.

I would dare to say that:

If American men chose Russian women of average appearance, women over thirty-five, or women with children; Y…

If they changed their lifestyle choices away from drug and alcohol abuse, violence, womanizing, and pornography; Y…

If they worked hard to alleviate culture shock, showed patience in teaching their Russian wives about life in their new country, they became better husbands and fathers; that the success rate of Russian-American marriages would be close to one hundred percent.