The problem most guys have when they meet a girl is that they continue to show too much interest too quickly. This is for asking too many questions or giving too much praise. Women don’t want their boyfriends to adore them, they want a balance between being challenged and being understanding. Being adored isn’t exactly on every woman’s agenda for the boy of her dreams. The best way to be nice is to go on without looking creepy.

Here are 6 signs that you are showing too much interest:

1. You ask her what her name is too soon.

The fastest way to scare a girl is to ask her name right at the start. Why should I give you her name? Have you done anything to deserve her name, or any information about her? Would you also like her address and social security number? You shouldn’t ask for things without a reason behind it. The reason you should ask someone’s name is because you enjoy talking to each other, not because you enjoy not talking to each other, or simply because the world has them standing next to each other.

2. Stop asking questions and start guessing.

To prevent your conversation from turning into a coy interview, you should jokingly guess things instead of just asking about them. All the time people ask general questions that you would find on a job application. How old are you? What do you do for fun? Do you have any Hobbie? What did you major in in college? When you turn these questions into guessing games, you keep things fun and exciting, instead of nervously escalating to the next question. I assume you work in advertising, sounds much more interesting than, insert answer here.

3. Talk in stories.

If you’re constantly asking questions and trying to fill in the blanks, you’re not having a conversation or learning anything from each other. You are basically moving through the bullets in a list. By sharing genuine stories that complement your conversation, the person you’re talking to can gain some background information about the type of person you are, which leads you to feel comfortable. A story can go on forever, a question can take a minute or two. Make sure your stories are engaging. Your story about your cat is just boring.

4. Too much information.

Most people don’t realize that strangers aren’t exactly their friends. There is such a thing as too much information. Refrain from talking about your family problems, your problems with friends, your problems with exes, your problems all together. Do not talk about repulsive moments with your friends, do not ask her about her taste in men. At some point they are allowed to talk about these things in the future, but not before the names are known.

5. Don’t ask for her number unless there’s a reason to.

Flirting is not a race to get numbers. What is the urgency? Is there another girl at the bar you want to talk to too? Quality over quantity. Unless there is some urgency, someone should not be inclined to feel that they should not be able to get more information. After a certain point, if neither of you shows any signs of leaving, tell her that you might want to leave soon and that she’s enjoying the conversation she’s having, but just in case, would she be open to talking again?

6. Don’t act like you can stay forever.

You don’t want to give the idea that you don’t have a life, or that you have nothing better to do than talk to the hundreds of random strangers in the world. Also, people have to eat. If you have their contact information, you are free to go, no problem. Even better, you could ask the woman you’re talking to to come with you to your next destination, whether it’s a bar, a bite to eat, or a walk in a park. If you met in the middle of the street, you don’t want to be standing in the cold for hours on end talking to each other. It’s just common sense.