On the last day of a recent “Bad Boy With A Heart” boot camp here in Sarasota, Florida, I took my students to The Tiki Bar for lunch. We all sat at the bar. I placed myself last. I do this on purpose. I always feel in the best place … the place that really separates me from others. So if a girl passes by, I get a chance to make eye contact with her … which opens up the possibility of really getting to know her.

About 10 minutes after we sat down, a group of 3 girls and 2 boys walked to the other end of where the students were sitting at the bar. One of the girls was super cute. My student sitting at the end started to go against everything we were talking about all weekend. He fell back into his old way of thinking (what the “community” taught him) and began throwing opening words and jokes at the girl next to him.

I was watching him totally screw up this interaction the entire time … shaking my head. The girl he was talking to was also shaking her head.

Meanwhile, he was making eye contact with the super cute girl behind them. After their group ordered their drinks, they walked to a table and sat down. The super cute girl conveniently positioned herself where she could see me so that we could continue to make eye contact. His companions sat in places where I couldn’t see them from my seat.

I continued to make eye contact with a super cute girl. A few minutes passed. Then one of the guys in the group came up to me and said that his sister was talking about me and wanted to meet me. (The power of the eyes in action!) I talked to him for a few minutes … just relaxing like I always do … without jumping up and down (which most guys would). I acted like I didn’t really care to meet her. As we chatted, my coaches led the students into the seminar room. I stayed behind.

Once they left, the brother called his sister and everyone else came over to the bar. I walked over and started talking to a super cute girl … who I had been constantly making eye contact with while talking to the boy. It was so simple. I said, “So you wanted to meet me, huh?” as he looked into her eyes … without thinking of anything else. Instant connection.

Then one of the other girls asked me if I knew that guy on the other side of the bar. I said “Yes, he’s a friend of mine. Why?” They all laughed. She started talking about the pickup lines he was using with her. He kept telling me what he said, but I honestly don’t remember what it was.

She said, “Wow! I’ve already heard you all!”

I laughed with them. So the girl I was talking to asked me to hang out with them at some party. Obviously, I couldn’t because I had to go back to training ground. So, I told him I had to go. She offered me her number. I said, “Here, I’m going to write mine. Call me if you want to hang out.”

The point is that while everyone is sitting and eating as they normally do, I am picking up women … as I normally do. There were no stupid pickup lines. There was no approach anxiety. (Hell, there wasn’t even a close up!) There was no frustration or negative thoughts running through my head. It was purely natural … the way I always meet women.

You can pick up women like that all the time. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you are doing … as long as you are mindful, relaxed, relaxed and comfortable in your own skin. But most of all … you’re having a good time wherever you are.

With my instruction, my student who messed up the interaction has stopped using those lines by internalizing the correct magnetic mindset and has improved immensely. He realized that this is not the way.