We spend a lot of time around here exposing ‘hidden detractors’. By this I mean anything that possibly prevents you from meeting the type of woman you want to meet and/or have full control over continuing the relationship when you choose to, but are not yet fully in control.

I think one of the darker “hidden detractors” for many involves a lack of display in the area of ​​bravery.

That’s right, simple “courage”.

About a month ago, I told you about “Six Ways to Be a Man.” Each of those respective suggestions, you’ll remember, was rated for “strength.”

Still, the reason “courage” wasn’t singled out as one of half a dozen on that list of male indicators that drive women crazy is very simple.

Courage, as a result, is a general theme that literally permeates a man’s being. When you successfully “inspire confidence” you have essentially, by definition, reassured a woman of her own personal level of courage.

So this time, let’s describe exactly what courage is. And more specifically, let’s talk about the kind of courage that women in particular find irresistibly attractive.

I give you a hint: it is No found in Jeff Foxworthy moments when we tell everyone, “Hey, check this out!” No, pointless nonsense turns women off, as does “showing off” for the sole purpose of impressing them.

So here we go… half a dozen ways to remove wussification forever and run strong:

1) Courage when expected so obvious

If most ordinary human beings can cope with something, so should you. It is not unusual to have phobias, even irrational ones. But know this: if you’re afraid of flying, crossing bridges, or taking the elevator, you’re NOT exactly inspiring confidence in a woman who probably doesn’t have such a fear. Your ability to inspire confidence takes a direct hit when you’re afraid, when even most women don’t flinch.

It is crucial to understand this concept accurately. No one is asking you to drive in an ice storm, or asking you to eat rattlesnakes like fucking Steve Irwin, or even eat food off the ground.

But if you have a hissing fit when a bee you’re not even deathly allergic to flies within five feet of you, and the women around you say, “Um… dude, what’s the problem?”, those are the times you know you have to learn to get over it.

2) Courage in the face of the unknown

What happens when there is a question mark ahead? Do you keep your head up and boldly face the music, or do you hide your head in the sand and procrastinate for as long as humanly possible?

A key example, made hilariously famous by George Lopez in one of his routines, is when a man knows he has a medical problem but refuses to see a doctor.

Knowing that the doctor could tell you any number of things from the innocuous to the devastating, you go ahead and fix it anyway.

“It’s better not to know… besides, they’ll charge me for everything!” It’s funny when George Lopez says it, but it would show a woman in your life that you’re a total wuss if YOU say it.

If you know the company is announcing layoffs today, go to work. Whatever it is, unless it’s armed and deadly and you’re not, you deal with it. Women love initiative and leadership.

3) Courage to achieve what motivates you

I don’t know how many kids I’ve heard talk about what they dream of doing, or where they dream of going… quickly followed by a sentence that begins with the word “but.”

“Oh man, I would LOVE to go to [insert exotic destination here]. But what if I get arrested and thrown in jail there or contract some strange disease while there?

“Wow…I WOULD LOVE to get a motorcycle license. But I’m really scared of having an accident.”

All of this is BORING for women, who often crave excitement in their lives.

The most impressive irony of all in that regard is that I am racking my brains, but I think I have never I suggested that a woman join me for something adventurous and she flatly refused…as long as it inspired her confidence.

4) Value when the chips are low

When it comes to “fight or flight,” women count on you to keep a cool head and make the right decision. Just like the NBA star wants the ball when his team is down by a point with five seconds left on the clock, you should also look to be the call-maker when a crisis looms.

Whether it’s a family problem, job loss, a car accident, a spider in the bathroom, or a strange sound in the middle of the night, you take the proverbial bull by the horns.

5) Courage among men

If you are constantly dominated and generally abused by the AMOGs around you, women will not be impressed by your passivity. Have the courage to suggest ideas, take the lead in the face of ambiguity, and remain reasonable when foolishly provoked.

Nothing inspires more confidence in a woman than this. You’re not starting bar fights, but you’re standing your ground and refusing to be a doormat.

Of course, there is one last axis on which the five previous examples are based…

6) Courage Toward HER

You shouldn’t be afraid of the women herself.

This means that you approach her and talk to her the first time you meet her without fear, which in turn will help her feel comfortable with you.

This also means that you don’t know and you “kiss” because you are afraid of losing her favor or making her angry. And, especially, it means that you don’t try to sell her every last original idea you have, at least offend her or don’t give her what she wants.

Most men are afraid of making a woman cry. You have to understand that women are more annoyed by your cowardice in telling the truth than by your honesty, as long as you stay in their best interests.

I mentioned that a lack of courage is often a “hidden detractor.” Seriously, in this day and age of secure cubicle jobs and sedentary lifestyles, it’s all too easy for us to overlook the fact that we lack even in this area. But make no mistake, women have a sixth sense for these things. Therefore, developing genuine courage, backed by strong reasoning skills, should be every man’s goal.

Here’s the thing.

It could give you a set of “rules” to follow. I could give you a checklist of things to do that would allow you, at least for now, to fool a woman or two into thinking you have it all under control.

But ultimately, the checklist would fail you. You cannot be fumbling for notes when a situation arises that requires genuine courage.