Men are not the only ones who are afraid to settle down, women are also afraid to settle down and for the same reasons as men. Contrary to popular opinion, women aren’t necessarily afraid to settle down because of some past pain some doggy man has poured on them. And the same goes for men. There are many women who do not want to give up their single life and settle down with a man. Women cling to their singleness just as strongly as men cling to their singleness. Of course, there are the men and women who happily marry and live at home with much enthusiasm. OK, we’re not talking about those. Although happy for them. There are women who love to spend their money however they please without having to think of two people when they may be thinking of number one. These women don’t have to be partying, drinking, going crazy, and hooking up with the hot, sexy guy at the bar. Although that can also be fun. (So ​​I have heard). :))

There are women who like their freedom and are in no hurry to run down the aisle in a riot of a white dress with an annoying bouquet in their hands. That sounds so fairytale princess. Just the thought of settling down will make some women break out in hives, have an asthma attack, and then shut down. That’s not to say there aren’t great men who would make fantastic husbands. Some women just aren’t interested in settling down with one person for the rest of their natural lives.

Now, while some of that fear might come from growing up with parents who didn’t love each other, some of that fear might come from simply not wanting to stop being single. Perhaps that woman has lived her life on her own terms and she has gotten used to the fact that she really doesn’t see the need to give up her single life when she has been extremely successful and she has been happy living life. her own life. Now there is another reason. If that woman is a strong woman, there are men who are put off by strong women. They may feel intimidated by that woman and will look for a woman who is less intimidating. NEXT! That’s what I say if a man is intimidated by me and can’t approach me as a mature adult man. Why would I want a man who can’t stand up to me, but he folds or runs every time? Why would she want a man who wants his ego stroked just so he can feel like the man? Nor will I play the role of a damsel in distress to be more complacent and submissive with a man.

There are so many women who have single-handedly supported their home and don’t have time to be the little woman to attract a man or make a man feel good. A strong woman needs a strong man who can stand by her side as her counterpart. It’s not about a physically strong man, although having a man muscular enough to pick up a woman and carry her around is very sexy and macho. If you like that type of man like me. Anyway, keep going. A woman doesn’t need a man who doesn’t know himself and plays around, nor does a woman need a man who bends over when problems arise. This is why some women are afraid to settle down. Okay, that’s why there’s a getting to know each other period and if a man doesn’t measure up, that woman will just move on with her life.

There are men who can’t handle half of what some women went through, so they can’t measure up to a woman like that. There are also men who just want women to be for them. So when women see those examples, it’s enough to create fear of settling on them. She does not want to become a man’s mother, wife, lover and doctor. A strong woman needs a strong man who can stand up for himself and who can stand by her side as a partner, a confidant, and a rock of support. Such a woman has no problem treating that man like a king because he has already shown her that he will treat her and regard her as the queen that she is.

A strong woman, a Queen, has no problem defending her King, a man who will show by his actions, not his words, that he can stand by his side and be his complete other half. A strong woman doesn’t need a man to protect her. She can protect herself from looking for her Sir Gallahad of the Knights of the Round Table. Such a woman needs a man who is on her side and on her team just as she will be for him. This is why it can be difficult for women to want to settle down. From what she has seen around her, it may be hard to believe that such a man exists, but she does exist. There are so many relationships that are working because both individuals fought for what they wanted and worked to become complete in themselves so that they would be attracted to their other half, who is also complete in themselves. They then come together in a healthy, loving, and spiritually growing relationship.

If as a woman you don’t want to settle down just because you love being single, then that’s fine. Gone are the days when a single woman was seen as an outcast by the townspeople because she was unmarried and childless, and gone are the days when a single woman was seen as a vulture that would go after married men. of the town. village. Single women are keeping it for themselves and living fabulous lives. However, if you are afraid to settle down because you don’t believe there are any mature men, then you are doing yourself a great disservice. If you really want to settle down, develop a marriage, and then get married, start working on becoming the kind of woman you would marry. If you would not marry you, why would you expect a man to want to marry you?

If you are not working on yourself, healing your past pains, and growing, then you will never be ready for a mature and healthy marriage. Because marriage is more than being married. Either person can get married, however, it takes two mature, adult people who are working to grow up to come together and have a marriage. A marriage is where they build a deeper intimacy with each other. It’s not where you go to grow yourself. You do that before you get married. When you have a marriage, then comes the getting married. Of course, not everyone does it that way, and some have managed to build a marriage through hard work, love, and a determination to stay together.

Women, when you begin to become the woman you want to be, then you are preparing to welcome someone else into your life. She has made a conscious decision to start working and growing. Take the time to take stock of your life and see where you can begin to grow the most. You may never get over the fear of settling down, however if you really want to get married, the more you date or remain open to having a strong man who is also your equal come into your life, that fear will slowly fade away and a beautiful friendship, love and Marriage will begin to materialize between two people who love each other sincerely and truly.

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