Don’t assume for a second that the definition of the word homeless is exclusive to someone begging for food or change, or people who are dirty and homeless. Wanderers come in all shapes. Many of them are very well dressed, very handsome, have the best haircuts, smell good, and are smart enough to bring many animals to play with you. Don’t be fooled by his charm, good looks, or charisma. Wanderers like to choose their targets carefully. They intentionally prey on the lonely, vulnerable, emotionally repressed, and sexually starved. The bums often show signs of their loser behavior. You may have dated a few, or you could be dating one right now and not know it.

Below are 12 signs to help you spot whether or not you’re dating one of these parasitic bloodsuckers:

• Attach Quick Forms – Bums tend to have very superficial relationships, and this can lead to women being impressed by their eagerness to tell you that they love you, and talk about marriage and commitment. Do not be fooled. Everything is game. The tramp is not really engaged. This type of talk is deliberately done to throw you into a confusion spin, as it positions you exactly where they want you to be, at their beck and call.
• borrow money – He starts with a few dollars and promises to pay you back. Very soon, the loan becomes a habit and you never see the money in return. The stingy are bad; freeloaders are worse. You know he could contribute, but he’s selfish and has an unusual sense of entitlement. He’s a bum!
• constantly apologizes – Losers make excuses, winners make things happen. If he constantly gives one excuse after another as to why he can’t keep working, isn’t in school, doesn’t have money, has a short temper, or why he becomes violent when you refuse to meet his needs. He’s a bum!
• He lives with his mother, aunt, grandmother, best friend, etc. – This isn’t necessarily a deal breaker for some, but it’s definitely something worth looking into. Personal economic downturns are usually temporary, not permanent. If you have a fully equipped basement “room” where you pursue your personal interests, like music, computers, pornography, weight lifting. Yes, this guy has installed his house. He’s not going anywhere anytime soon unless he comes to your house to live off of you. He’s a bum!
• Hit the panic button at the sign of a breakout – Bums tend to panic at the thought of you cutting them, unless it’s their idea, and then drop you like a hot stone. They will break down and cry, beg, promise change, offer gifts, and even threaten suicide. It’s all a game to play with your emotions, and it’s made to launch you on a guilt trip where you are then pushed into a multitude of emotions (ex. blaming yourself, feelings that you are the problem, etc.)
• paranoid control – Homeless people can be very controlling, which has to do with their feelings of inadequacy. They will encourage you to drop your hobbies, interests, and involvement with others, yes, even your friends and family. The idea behind this is to prevent you from doing anything other than participating in activities that they fully control.
• If he’s a dead-beat father – This is self explanatory. Don’t assume it will be different if you have a baby for him.
• If you abuse alcohol and drugs – He’s a bum!
• He spends his days texting, Facebooking, playing video games, eating and sleeping all day – He’s a bum! Real men are productive individuals. They will make themselves useful in any way they can, not only to you but to themselves.
• Constantly borrowing your car – He’s a bum!
• If all you do is never enough! He is a bum.
• Live in a constant state of drama – Criminal record, bad credit, cries broke, has a story for everything, is irresponsible and lies all the time for no reason. He’s a bum!

These are just a few warning signs to give you an idea of ​​how to identify a bum and how to spot their loser behavior. Wanderers are like parasites, or worse, fungal infections. If you don’t guard against them, they will show up and take over. I have seen some of the strongest, most independent, and self-sufficient women fall victim to good looks and a big penis, only to find themselves with an empty wallet, a broken heart, and tons of emotional baggage.

Never allow yourself to be so caught up in your emotions that you feel you are powerless to get out of that relationship. We all inevitably resort to doubt when we are afraid that we cannot control our experience. Please know that it is not your job to correct, fix, cure, change or cleanse any man.

The best kind of kryptonite against drifters is to set some standards. Your standards will help you recognize your worth, and sticking to them will help you avoid losers at all costs. Don’t compromise your happiness for anyone. If a potential suitor shows any of the above signs, take them as giant red flags and run as fast as he can.