Alright, you’ve made it to 30 grand, right? Perhaps you are rapidly approaching 40 and want to know how to find a girlfriend at 30.

I have good news for you. Not only is it possible, but you’ll likely increase your chances of doing it by following the 5 tips below that most men overlook. 90% of men in the world don’t follow this advice, according to what I hear on the dating radio show I co-host.

ONE: Understand what kind of woman you SHOULD be looking for

Many men go from one attractive woman to another attractive woman without knowing what the person inside is like. If you’re in your 30s looking for love, chances are you’ve had one or more experiences with a serious relationship. You may have even been married before. Most guys in their 30s have these things in the past but don’t understand the reason why things blew up because they didn’t treat the right girl right (more on that later) or picked the wrong woman to begin with ( which happens a lot).

You should look for a woman with a flexible personality who is generous and self-sufficient. Structured or stubborn women with self-esteem issues and excess baggage may be a thing of the past for you if you follow my advice, because all women EXCEPT the self-sufficient do not respond well to the advice I give in this article. (especially mystery and challenge, discussed later).

Many men overestimate their appearance and don’t look at what’s inside. Women who are just “cute” physically can become beautiful to you if they have a great personality. On the other hand, women who look like magazine models can become “ugly” if they are mercenary or structured.

TWO: It’s all about YOUR level of interest

No one talks about the woman’s interest level! How does she feel about you? Most men are attracted to a woman and CHARGE because the male ego falsely tells you “if I like her, she must like me too”.

Men have to learn NOT to rush into rejection. You have to keep a constant check on whether she is interested in you or not. Does she laugh at your jokes? Is it easy to get a date with her? Do you feel like you are the absolute center of the action when you are with her? You have to constantly look for signs that her interest level is going up or down because you are a STRANGER to each other until you get to 2 months or 10 dates.

Yes, you heard right. You two are STRANGERS until you hit the 2 month or 10 date mark. I’m always surprised when guys call our show or write emails saying they “know the girl” even though they’ve only been on 3 dates with her.

You need TIME with a woman, but unfortunately, most men DECIDE ON REJECTION.

THREE: Treat the right girl right

Lots of guys can make women fall in love. I bet you’ve had women in love with you before. Did they fall in love? Many guys “chill and change” once the relationship is secured. The same fun guy who took her dancing and to interesting weekend destinations now plays poker with the guys at their old date nights and asks her to serve her friends sandwiches.

Let me break it down for you. She is not your best friend nor is she your loyal dog. Your best friend and loyal dog will forgive you for times when you don’t treat them like you know you should.

Your lady, on the other hand, will lower her interest level until you are OUT.

Another thing that guys do is start making their mom or the psychiatrist more serious with her. We’ll discuss this in the next tip, but women like it to be light and fun. I know there will be serious topics as you get into a more meaningful relationship, but there’s no reason you have to be serious all the time. Solve the serious stuff and move on.

Remember, she likes things light and fun. The guys who make her a mom or the psychiatrist put her in a position she doesn’t want to be in, plus she can’t perceive you as a man to fall in love with if she continually complains.

FOUR: The light and funny gentleman is what she wants.

What do most women want from relationships? They want to laugh. They want to have a fun time on a date or when they are around you. They also want a REAL MAN who isn’t afraid to say no to them if he thinks they’re right.

Knights are also a mystery and a challenge for women. They don’t talk about going on another date when they’re on one with her, they don’t give excessive compliments, they don’t give gifts as an attempt to buy her affection, and she continually wonders (in the early stages) if he’s seeing other women.

The gentleman has the “I don’t need you, you need me” attitude towards women which shows in his actions and reactions towards her.

FIVE: Keep in mind that appointments are like sales and you should only look for “hot” leads.

Of all the women I talk to, only a few will be long-term candidates. You have to kiss a lot of frogs, so to speak. We tell guys on the show all the time that “women help you when they like you.”

This would seem obvious, but for many guys it is not.

I can’t tell you how many men I see handing out their business cards or continually asking a woman out after they’ve been turned down.

Just approach the lady you want like a gentleman and ask for her number after establishing a little rapport. If she gets anything other than digits right away, walk away and go to the next clue.

If you get her number, then you have another 2 months or 10 dates to figure out if YOU want HER to be YOUR girlfriend.

If you are wondering how to find a girlfriend at 30, these 5 tips will definitely help you.

Remember guys, you have to find the right one and then treat it right!