Everyone, regardless of age, is attracted to beautiful people, it is part of everyday life. Hence the reason why celebrities are so admired and followed. Scientific research shows that women with large eyes and small features are more likely to be considered attractive. To men, she is the more stereotypical tall, cabriolet figure with strong features and a square chin. But people naturally disagree in all sorts of ways about what is actually considered attractive. In today’s world, being skinny is the “in” thing to do, but in history, the bigger person was thought to be healthier and therefore more attractive, weird huh?!

body language

If you’re not stereotypically beautiful, don’t worry, it’s not the end of the world. People don’t always look for the most beautiful people. Beyond the initial attraction, personality is more important, yes, it’s true! Some of us act like a magnet, so to speak, whatever we look like. They have what is called charisma: a gift, the mixture of charm and personality.

Are you charismatic? Pretty charming? Ask a friend to record you talking to a group and see what your body language says about your behavior, seriously! Body language has to do with the look on his face, the way he talks, and the signals he sends by how he stands and moves—essentially a self-introduction. Take eye contact, for example, if you don’t look at someone when you’re first introduced, it sounds like you’re shy, aloof, or maybe you have something to hide. Threatening, almost hostile behavior. Most encounters are a good mix of looking at the person and then looking away, especially when talking to a close friend, it’s completely natural.

They are interested?

So how do you know when someone likes you? Well, there are many telltale signs. According to body language experts, if someone really likes you, you will notice an increase in eye contact, they will hold their gaze for a second or two longer than usual. They will then continue to look back to check your expression and see how you react to them. Another sign that someone likes you is if they stand a little closer to you than normal, in some cases the complete invasion of personal space is very apparent.

Standing, the normal distance between people is about 45 cm and 1.2 m. Any approach could be a sign of interest. Try it yourself, if the person moves away, it may mean that they are not as interested in you as you are in them.

Another telltale sign of interest is if this person looks at you with an “open” body. That is, they don’t have their arms crossed and they don’t play with something while they talk to you. Actions like arms crossed mean they feel the need to defend themselves against you, unless they’re just in deep thought. Also if you are sitting he will cross his legs to get you away from you. Putting a hand on his face is another way to temporarily cut yourself. However, if he has wide eyes and raised eyebrows, it could be a sign that he likes you.

When you’re talking to someone who likes you, they tend to smile more than usual, but make sure it’s a genuine smile where the eyes crinkle and not a fake one where just the muscles of the mouth move. The person may also strongly agree with you if they are attracted to you. The deal may not be genuine when you get to know them better: they do it to try to get along with you.

If you want to let someone know that you like them, don’t be shy! Be sure to make eye contact, if you don’t they will most likely think you are not interested. Stand an inch or two closer to them than you normally would. Get to know them, find out what interests them and chat more about it. Go grab a snack together, send a few texts, and even offer to do a favor or two. Just monitor how they respond to your advances.

Are you flirting with me?

There are a ton of cues that people use when flirting. Hands on the waist or hips are common in both genders, as is playing with items such as pens, drinks, or anything close at hand. Males are said to be more likely to play with circular objects when flirting, females with cylindrical objects like glasses. Here are some other signs to look out for:

Men:

* Straighten or adjust your hair.

* Rub or tug on an earlobe.

* Play with clothes, that is: zipper, tie, buttons, collars or sleeves.

* Put your fingers inside a belt.

Females:

* Play with a necklace, bracelet or earrings.

* Play with her hair, throw it over her shoulder.

* Exposing one shoulder by letting a garment hang down.

* Sway your hips, especially when passing a landmark or dancing.

overcoming shyness

Being shy is completely natural, we have all struggled with it at some point. If you haven’t, you are either too confident or lying to yourself. Don’t let it rule your life. Learning to look at people is the key to overcoming shyness. Even if you have to look away again, try to make eye contact with people. Practice in the mirror if necessary. Look into your eyes.

Don’t talk too much about yourself. Ask them questions and be sure to listen to the answers, it can be helpful for future conversations. Don’t assume that everyone is watching you. They are not! Remember, shyness is very attractive to many people, don’t let it stress you out.